Category Archives: Perspective

This I Do Believe – Not Believe

 Daily Prompt: Tell us three things that you believe in your heart to be true. Tell us three things you believe in your heart to be false.


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  • I believe that everyone wants to know that they are valued and loved.
  • I believe the American education system should be available to all and free to all. Young adults should not be saddled with enormous debt just to get a degree to be employable.
  •  I believe every abuser should have a moment (many moments)  where they feel the pain, demoralization, confusion, etc. that their victim feels.

Don’t Believe:

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  • I never believed (even as a child) in those childhood lies told by adults, such as: the existence of Santa Clause, Fairy Godmother, Tooth Fairy, Easer Bunny, Prince in Shining Armor, and Bible Stories. These figures never made sense to me, so I didn’t buy into their (parents) imagination.
  •  I don’t believe corporations should be given huge tax breaks on their huge profits when the working poor and people living below the poverty line go without.
  •  I don’t believe that people living in this great United States of America should have to go without basic health care, so I don’t understand why the conservative party is so up in arms when it comes to helping those who cannot afford to pay for healthcare.

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Share Your World – Week 10

This week’s questions from Cee’s Share Your World & 61/musings Club Introvert:

Describe yourself in a word that starts with the first letter of your name: D (for Del) =

Determined – because determination-large-msg-135986263557

when I set my mind on something I don’t stop until I either achieve the goal or evolve to a different goal

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If 100 people your age were chosen at random, how many do you think you’d find leading a more satisfying life than yours?

This is a relative question…”satisfying” to whom? I am in a transition phase of my life, so I keep my options open and welcome new adventures.

I fulfilled a goal I was not confident that would come to fruition – I recently completed a grad degree that I had put off for many, many years. I relocated from the ATL to the NE to complete my grad program, and spent 3yrs there Upon graduation I quickly left the cold and snow of the NE and ran (not literally) across many states to embrace fun in the sun & beach of Southern CA. In my book, the opportunity to ramble around as I wish is already an amazing life. I could stop there, but really? I can’t sit still as it is, so now I am on the ground floor of developing a training curriculum for a mindfulness/holistic wellness program to share with the secular – business – world.

I am also satisfying a spiritual quest by delving into the Buddha’s teachings and Buddhists practices, which will actually enhance my holistic program for the secular population  (minus the spiritual terminology).

I live 10miles from the beach and the view from my home is fabulous – nothing but greenery (grass, shrubs, trees) and birds singing. As we speak, I am looking at the trees swaying in the breeze…priceless.


Life is pretty darn good from where I sit and I am grateful for the experience.

If you were a tree, would you become a book or furniture?

I don’t know why, but my thinking is not typically an either/or, it leans towards – how can I fit it all in.

I’d like to be a good hard to put down cozy or hard-boiled mystery filled with lots of humor and challenging who-done-it murder(s). I’d also like to be a comfortable overstuffed chair that people can sink into for hours as they read me (as a book).


You are trapped in an elevator, who would you want to be trapped with?

I would like to be trapped with the Dalai Lama, Bob Marley, and Malcolm X…what an interesting conversation that would be. I can hear it now – the Dalai Lama sharing his views on showing compassion for all mankind, Bob Marley talking about standing up/speaking up your rights and encouraging people to come together “as one”, and Malcolm X talking about mobilizing people of all races to fight for civil & human rights, equal opportunity, and racial equality (of course, this would be after his pilgrimage to Mecca, his awakening during the Hajj, and his departure from the Nation of Islam). Exciting!

Of course, as an introvert, I would more than likely allow the three to do most of the talking as I listen and soak it all up.

Bonus question: What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

This happened last Friday – I am grateful for a new friend telling me: “I am here for you” and feeling the authenticity and compassion in her voice.

In the coming week, I look forward to forging ahead in developing my curriculum (mentioned in question #2).

Fun questions!

Club Introvert:

Cee’s Share Your World:

Share Your World – 4 Questions

61 Musings-Club Introvert: Share Your World

I recently rejoined the blogging world after being dormant for 8months. My intention is to write something every day (well, most days). I walk around with many ideas in my head, so when I came across this wonderful blog: 61 Musings (from a 61 year old introvert). I was thrilled to find it because the information speaks to my introverted side (an assessment I recently took in my Psych class shows that I actually straddle the introvert & extrovert fence, even though I feel that I need a little alone time to recharge – I just know how to play in both worlds as necessary), so I joined “club introvert” because  what’s shared there is quite interesting.


Today, Chris (the owner of 61 Musings) posed some fun questions. There are 4 questions she asks us to answer – either on your own blog or here in the comments. I think these questions are fun for both introverts and extroverts to answer.

Would you rather be given $10 000 for your own use or $100 000 to give anonymously to strangers?

I’m going outside the box here. How about I take the $100K and keep $10K for myself, then give $90k away. I am currently unemployed and could use the help. Of course, I’m not the only one who could use the assistance, so I would definitely share with others.

When you’re 90 years old, what will matter most to you?

Well, I hope to live a long time because I want to be around to see my children succeed on their own and to meet my grandchildren. In saying that, I want to be healthy enough to enjoy time with my family, travel, and get around by myself (in most situations). Most people want to be able to still drive at that age, but you know what, being chauffeured around at age 90 doesn’t seem like a bad idea to me.

Candy factories of the entire world have become one and will now be making only one kind of candy. Which kind, if you were calling the shots?

Well, my latest binge is M&M plain chocolate, Lindt-Lindor (plain chocolate), and Ghirardelli’s caramel squares. I’m also a fan of Snickers mini squares. Yeah, I got a chocolate thing going on, so I guess a Chocolate factory is the winner!

So, you’re on your way out and it’s raining. Do you know where your umbrella is or do you frantically search for it all over your apartment/house?

If I had read this question a few years ago before moving to Oregon I would have said, “Of course I need an umbrella…after all, I own three of them!” Well, 6yrs of living in Oregon cured me of that foolish idea. It even got to the point where I developed a love of taking long runs in the morning rain…glorious. Now I reside in sunny California where It never Rains In Southern California (check out the song by Tony-Toni-Tone) and I still don’t use an umbrella on those rare days the rain-gods decide to sprinkle down some rain. Who needs an umbrella? Not Me!

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Questions From Life

The blog: Black, White and Read All Over posted, what I consider to be great questions to ponder, so I took the leap and answered them.

Below are my thoughts to their questions:

1.Why is it called “reality” TV if it’s scripted and seems fake?
Nothing on TV is real, not even the news. Network execs need to make money in order to stay in business, so they must control every facet of the programs shown on their network, including people who work for them. They feel the need to script or edit shows so they will sell and attract advertisers and an audience. The profit margin is “reality” for these execs. It’s all a business!

2.Will racism in this country ever end?
“Racism may be defined as the hatred of one person by another — or the belief that another person is less than human — because of skin color, language, customs, place of birth or any factor that supposedly reveals the basic nature of that person.” …extracted from the Anti Defamation League.

As far as ending racism in this country, it may end when people are willing to have honest conversations about racism and admit that it still exists. America is a diverse country; we all have different life stories and “reality”. We need to be willing to step outside of our comfort zone, open our heart, invite diverse individuals/groups in to our circle, and get to know people from different races and ethnicity.

Education, personal interaction, and empathy will help turn the tide, hopefully, towards positive changes. We have to start somewhere. I know racism will not end in my lifetime; however, I do my part in helping to bring about positive change.

3.What’s the best advice you could give any couple who is going through a “you cheated on me” situation?
Calmly talk about the situation and what may have lead up to the cheating event! Don’t shout, don’t curse the other person, and don’t blame. Take responsibility for each person’s part in the situation. Respect each other enough to be truthful, be open to hear each other’s reality, figure out where the relationship breakdown took place, and decide whether you both want the relationship to progress or end. If you both want to stay in the relationship and recover, keep the honest communication going. If the relationship is truly over, each person should let the other person go, so you can both move on with their life.

4. What happens to our spirit when it leaves our body?

The question I have is, DOES our spirit leave our body when we die? In my book, death is the end of all aspect of one’s life. What is left behind for others are memories (hopefully good) of how we chose to live our life.

5. If there is only ONE GOD, why are we so divided?
I just read something a professor wrote while researching different cultures and religious beliefs. I’m not trying to debate the existence (or not) of God, but I thought what he wrote was interesting:”…man created god in his image (instead of god creating man in his image). Because man did believe in himself, he created a god in whom he could believe. But the wonders of “reality” are not in the God man created, but in Us and all things around us….”

6. What’s the best way to make yourself happy?
Love yourself and happiness will follow.

7. Who’s to blame? The parents or the teachers? (Have our schools failed our children?)
Parents and Teachers need to work in partnership with each other to teach our young ones. Each entity has influence over the child’s life, so the “teachings” should be consistent. Parents and teachers should communicate with each other, so the child is not receiving mixed messages. Of course this is a simplified answer. The issue is much deeper and has many points to consider.

Thank you Black, White, and Read All Over for inspiring me to come back to my blog after a lengthy absence (took time off to focus on a major relocation and getting settled).

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