Hiking or Talking….One Has To Go!

Member of Club Introvert

The introvert in me strikes again.

A few weeks ago I signed up for a Women Professionals group hike scheduled for March 15th,  duration of 2-4hours. I’ve done this type of group activity before in other locations where I’ve lived, so I was excited to see it offered here in my new home city. My experience for this activity has been that we first focus on the mountainous hike and then gather afterwards for getting-to-know-you talks.

I enjoy outdoors activities, so I thought this would satisfy two needs: exercise without the pressure to talk during the hike and meet new people, especially women of like mind.

A few days ago an updated notice was posted informing us that the hiking trail had changed…no problem.  Reading the comments, I find out that the new location is better than the originally planned trail, it has pretty flat walking surface, and great for people of all physical capabilities. Me not familiar with the area appreciated this information.

As I read more comments I notice this question from a participant: “How rigorous is the hike? Used to be in shape but have been working too much lately.” The organizer’s response: “I’ve learned that this group of ladies like to talk. So, we mostly stroll.” Another participant chimes in with excitement: “I’ll be there! I’ll be awake! and Ready to walk and talk!” Just reading her response wore me out.

Talk while we stroll for 2-4hrs? Really?

The athlete in me was looking forward to a rigorous “hike”, not a stroll. For me, a flat surface is not the best for a hike. I prefer mountain trails and yes, where I live there are plenty of mountainous terrains for miles, hence my excitement to hike up/down a mountain. I even had my hiking gear (boots, cap, shades, water bottle, backpack) ready for the hike…not a stroll. Ok, so my thinking was not in line with a stroll, but not a deal breaker, I can adjust. I can overcome the flat surface issue by speed walking to get my heart rate up.

Hiking: google images
Hiking: google images

On the flip side, the introvert in me was stumped at the thought of having to track on conversations for 2-4 hours. How exhausting. This definitely was a deal breaker.

I had to pass on this hike-stroll.

As I said, I can adjust. My new plan for my Saturday is to spend the afternoon sitting in the sun reading The Cuckoo’s Calling by Robert Galbraith (aka J. K. Rowling), then dining with my daughter in the evening hours. Now, that’s what I call an energy boosting Saturday.


Dear Extroverts – I hope you find something exciting to do that fits your energy level. Dear Introverts – I hope you find some quiet time/place to recharge your battery as you go through your day. Happy Saturday Everyone!

Info on Club Introvert can be found at: http://61musings.com/club-introvert/


Share Your World – Week 10

This week’s questions from Cee’s Share Your World & 61/musings Club Introvert:

Describe yourself in a word that starts with the first letter of your name: D (for Del) =

Determined – because determination-large-msg-135986263557

when I set my mind on something I don’t stop until I either achieve the goal or evolve to a different goal

Distinctive – because  tumblr_static_codee

If 100 people your age were chosen at random, how many do you think you’d find leading a more satisfying life than yours?

This is a relative question…”satisfying” to whom? I am in a transition phase of my life, so I keep my options open and welcome new adventures.

I fulfilled a goal I was not confident that would come to fruition – I recently completed a grad degree that I had put off for many, many years. I relocated from the ATL to the NE to complete my grad program, and spent 3yrs there Upon graduation I quickly left the cold and snow of the NE and ran (not literally) across many states to embrace fun in the sun & beach of Southern CA. In my book, the opportunity to ramble around as I wish is already an amazing life. I could stop there, but really? I can’t sit still as it is, so now I am on the ground floor of developing a training curriculum for a mindfulness/holistic wellness program to share with the secular – business – world.

I am also satisfying a spiritual quest by delving into the Buddha’s teachings and Buddhists practices, which will actually enhance my holistic program for the secular population  (minus the spiritual terminology).

I live 10miles from the beach and the view from my home is fabulous – nothing but greenery (grass, shrubs, trees) and birds singing. As we speak, I am looking at the trees swaying in the breeze…priceless.


Life is pretty darn good from where I sit and I am grateful for the experience.

If you were a tree, would you become a book or furniture?

I don’t know why, but my thinking is not typically an either/or, it leans towards – how can I fit it all in.

I’d like to be a good hard to put down cozy or hard-boiled mystery filled with lots of humor and challenging who-done-it murder(s). I’d also like to be a comfortable overstuffed chair that people can sink into for hours as they read me (as a book).


You are trapped in an elevator, who would you want to be trapped with?

I would like to be trapped with the Dalai Lama, Bob Marley, and Malcolm X…what an interesting conversation that would be. I can hear it now – the Dalai Lama sharing his views on showing compassion for all mankind, Bob Marley talking about standing up/speaking up your rights and encouraging people to come together “as one”, and Malcolm X talking about mobilizing people of all races to fight for civil & human rights, equal opportunity, and racial equality (of course, this would be after his pilgrimage to Mecca, his awakening during the Hajj, and his departure from the Nation of Islam). Exciting!

Of course, as an introvert, I would more than likely allow the three to do most of the talking as I listen and soak it all up.

Bonus question: What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

This happened last Friday – I am grateful for a new friend telling me: “I am here for you” and feeling the authenticity and compassion in her voice.

In the coming week, I look forward to forging ahead in developing my curriculum (mentioned in question #2).

Fun questions!

Club Introvert: http://61musings.com/2014/03/10/club-introvert-social-gathering/

Cee’s Share Your World: http://ceenphotography.com/2014/03/10/share-your-world-2014-week-10/

Share Your World – 4 Questions

61 Musings-Club Introvert: Share Your World

I recently rejoined the blogging world after being dormant for 8months. My intention is to write something every day (well, most days). I walk around with many ideas in my head, so when I came across this wonderful blog: 61 Musings (from a 61 year old introvert). I was thrilled to find it because the information speaks to my introverted side (an assessment I recently took in my Psych class shows that I actually straddle the introvert & extrovert fence, even though I feel that I need a little alone time to recharge – I just know how to play in both worlds as necessary), so I joined “club introvert” because  what’s shared there is quite interesting.


Today, Chris (the owner of 61 Musings) posed some fun questions. There are 4 questions she asks us to answer – either on your own blog or here in the comments. I think these questions are fun for both introverts and extroverts to answer.

Would you rather be given $10 000 for your own use or $100 000 to give anonymously to strangers?

I’m going outside the box here. How about I take the $100K and keep $10K for myself, then give $90k away. I am currently unemployed and could use the help. Of course, I’m not the only one who could use the assistance, so I would definitely share with others.

When you’re 90 years old, what will matter most to you?

Well, I hope to live a long time because I want to be around to see my children succeed on their own and to meet my grandchildren. In saying that, I want to be healthy enough to enjoy time with my family, travel, and get around by myself (in most situations). Most people want to be able to still drive at that age, but you know what, being chauffeured around at age 90 doesn’t seem like a bad idea to me.

Candy factories of the entire world have become one and will now be making only one kind of candy. Which kind, if you were calling the shots?

Well, my latest binge is M&M plain chocolate, Lindt-Lindor (plain chocolate), and Ghirardelli’s caramel squares. I’m also a fan of Snickers mini squares. Yeah, I got a chocolate thing going on, so I guess a Chocolate factory is the winner!

So, you’re on your way out and it’s raining. Do you know where your umbrella is or do you frantically search for it all over your apartment/house?

If I had read this question a few years ago before moving to Oregon I would have said, “Of course I need an umbrella…after all, I own three of them!” Well, 6yrs of living in Oregon cured me of that foolish idea. It even got to the point where I developed a love of taking long runs in the morning rain…glorious. Now I reside in sunny California where It never Rains In Southern California (check out the song by Tony-Toni-Tone) and I still don’t use an umbrella on those rare days the rain-gods decide to sprinkle down some rain. Who needs an umbrella? Not Me!

Check out her blog: http://61musings.com/2014/02/25/share-your-world-week-8/

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