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I’m That Traveler

Daily Prompt: What’s your travel style? Are you itinerary and schedule driven, needing to have every step mapped out in advance or are you content to arrive without a plan and let happenstance be your guide?

 I am that traveler that likes to get to my destination and left to my own devices. I understand the need for a schedule while on a business trip. However, when I am on vacation, keep that itinerary far away from me! I usually travel with people who are compatible to my sensibilities, but in 2008 I traveled with a friend whose nature (planner – covnersationalist) is the opposite of mine (not a planner – not big on much talking).

In 2008 I went home to Jamaica with my friend Vandy, who was recovering from surgery. She said she wanted recuperating time and did not want to stay with family (she is also Jamaican) because if we stayed with family, they would not allow her the time to chill out and just be. I was all for that, so we rented hotel rooms for each person – actually renting separate rooms was my idea. She wanted to share a room, but I needed my alone time to recharge and did not want to feel obligated to stay up all night talking.

So, we checked into our rooms and immediately walked to the beach. I was in heaven. Since Vandy’s natural inclination is to plan everything out, her brain immediately went into planning mode. On the other hand, I am a free spirit who likes to go where/when the wind blows, so my mind when blank – blackout mode.

Well, she just couldn’t help herself and started planning out our week on the island. As she spoke, I just cringed.

Here is the conversation I had in my head as she read off her checklist of activities:

 Ok, when we talked about this trip, you verbalized that you wanted to chill and take time to heal from your surgery. I was down for that. I envisioned seven days of beach time!

 I am here for you and here to help you through the healing process. Which means carry heavy bags and taking things slow. What’s this about filling the days with activities? You just had surgery aren’t you still in pain?

 I can’t take this, I am here to chill and spend as much time in the water as possible. How do I burst your bubble without hurting your feelings? since that would be asking you to step outside your comfort zone and think differently…no planning. This is crazy!

brain overload - google images
brain overload – google images

I finally interrupted her and said, “You need to take time to heal and you know I don’t do well with schedules when I am not at work”.  She gave me the death stare, as if I just took the wind out of her sail.

I continued, “Let’s compromise. Since you get up earlier than I do, you can go swimming and I’ll meet you on the beach when I get up. We can then do one or two things on your list, but other than that, this is a leisure trip for me which means freedom from itineraries and checklists.” She hesitated, but finally agreed.

As it turned out, she would not have been able to everything she wanted to because she was in pain most of the time. We even had to take it slow when we went about doing a couple activity items on her list.

We had a fabulous week in Negril because of the compromise we struck. So, my lesson from that trip is, when traveling with others I will let them know up front that I’m that traveler that does not do well with schedules. If they can’t handle it then I can’t travel with them.

View from hotel window_Negril, JA 2008 (taken by EOD)
View from hotel window_Negril, JA 2008 (taken by EOD)

Daily Prompt: http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2014/03/19/daily-prompt-the-happy-wanderer/

Share Your World – Week 10

This week’s questions from Cee’s Share Your World & 61/musings Club Introvert:

Describe yourself in a word that starts with the first letter of your name: D (for Del) =

Determined – because determination-large-msg-135986263557

when I set my mind on something I don’t stop until I either achieve the goal or evolve to a different goal

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If 100 people your age were chosen at random, how many do you think you’d find leading a more satisfying life than yours?

This is a relative question…”satisfying” to whom? I am in a transition phase of my life, so I keep my options open and welcome new adventures.

I fulfilled a goal I was not confident that would come to fruition – I recently completed a grad degree that I had put off for many, many years. I relocated from the ATL to the NE to complete my grad program, and spent 3yrs there Upon graduation I quickly left the cold and snow of the NE and ran (not literally) across many states to embrace fun in the sun & beach of Southern CA. In my book, the opportunity to ramble around as I wish is already an amazing life. I could stop there, but really? I can’t sit still as it is, so now I am on the ground floor of developing a training curriculum for a mindfulness/holistic wellness program to share with the secular – business – world.

I am also satisfying a spiritual quest by delving into the Buddha’s teachings and Buddhists practices, which will actually enhance my holistic program for the secular population  (minus the spiritual terminology).

I live 10miles from the beach and the view from my home is fabulous – nothing but greenery (grass, shrubs, trees) and birds singing. As we speak, I am looking at the trees swaying in the breeze…priceless.

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Life is pretty darn good from where I sit and I am grateful for the experience.

If you were a tree, would you become a book or furniture?

I don’t know why, but my thinking is not typically an either/or, it leans towards – how can I fit it all in.

I’d like to be a good hard to put down cozy or hard-boiled mystery filled with lots of humor and challenging who-done-it murder(s). I’d also like to be a comfortable overstuffed chair that people can sink into for hours as they read me (as a book).

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You are trapped in an elevator, who would you want to be trapped with?

I would like to be trapped with the Dalai Lama, Bob Marley, and Malcolm X…what an interesting conversation that would be. I can hear it now – the Dalai Lama sharing his views on showing compassion for all mankind, Bob Marley talking about standing up/speaking up your rights and encouraging people to come together “as one”, and Malcolm X talking about mobilizing people of all races to fight for civil & human rights, equal opportunity, and racial equality (of course, this would be after his pilgrimage to Mecca, his awakening during the Hajj, and his departure from the Nation of Islam). Exciting!

Of course, as an introvert, I would more than likely allow the three to do most of the talking as I listen and soak it all up.

Bonus question: What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

This happened last Friday – I am grateful for a new friend telling me: “I am here for you” and feeling the authenticity and compassion in her voice.

In the coming week, I look forward to forging ahead in developing my curriculum (mentioned in question #2).

Fun questions!

Club Introvert: http://61musings.com/2014/03/10/club-introvert-social-gathering/

Cee’s Share Your World: http://ceenphotography.com/2014/03/10/share-your-world-2014-week-10/

DP: Walking on the Moon…or should I say – Gliding in the Sky!

Daily Prompt: Walking on the Moon – What giant step did you take where you hoped your leg wouldn’t break? Was it worth it, were you successful in walking on the moon, or did your leg break?

Literally, the closest I came to walking on the moon was skydiving. I like to take risks, and this was one of those that I did to overcome a fear of falling from high places.

Half of me hate riding roller coasters and the other half love the thrill.  My thing with, riding roller coasters is, I don’t like when my stomach comes up to meet my throat as we descend down the large slopes. I hold on for dear life to anything I can grab hold of, even though I know I am securely strapped in…just hate that feeling. Well, for an unconventional thrill, I got a friend to join me on my adventure in the sky.

“And the day came when the risk to reaming tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin 

 On another note – a second fear I had was, not making it to the ground alive. That fear stemmed from my work as a “tower” Air Traffic Controller (ATC) in the military controlling airplanes, when I witnessed the aftermath of an unfortunate event. Additional to controlling airplanes, we allowed other military branches to conduct parachute training at our airport facility. On this particular day, my ATC crew was called in to relieve the previous crew from their duty because, as they were watching an Army parachuting training event, the chute of a female trainee did not open and she crashed to the hard pavement. She died instantly with internal injuries and broken bones. As a requirement, the on duty crew had to debrief the tragic event with the investigators, so we took over their shift. We were later told, the cause of the accident was due to parachute malfunction. Damn!

Training (taken by Del)
Training (taken by EssenceofDel)

So back to my dive – after our brief training in the hanger, we went up for our ride. The first step out of the plane door wasn’t the scariest for me, as you would think. When we started falling is when the fear grabbed a hold of me. Grant it, I was tethered to a master instructor but really, what could he do to quell my internal fear…Nothing!  As we were gliding, he yelled to me. “Are you alight?” Are you serious right now, is what I was thinking, but I just answered, “Sure!” It was somewhat comforting know I was not out there by myself. But seriously, him being there didn’t keep my stomach from rising up to meet my throat or my constant stream of prayer for my chute to open prior to a “safe” landing. He did take my mind off of the fall by talking to me and prompting me to take in beautiful scenery. He was good, guess that’s why he’s a Master instructor!

“If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn

I decided to swallow hard and just glide. Once sick feeling passed, I actually enjoyed riding the air. The scenery was amazing and the feeling of freedom was intoxicating. And…my chute opened…plus no broken bones! Yay!!! Fantastic!!

Smooth Gliding (property of EssenceofDel)
Smooth Gliding (property of EssenceofDel)

Would I do it again? Hell, Yeah! I’m excited just thinking about it now.

I made it! (property of Del)
I made it! (property EssenceofDel)

I would recommend skydiving to anyone who wants to a change of pace….I mean Really want to experience something different.

“Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find to how far once can go.” – T.S. Eliot

WP Daily Post – http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2014/02/23/daily-prompt-moon-walking/

DP: Nothin’ But A Good Time – On The Beach

WP Daily Prompt: Imagine that tomorrow, all of your duties and obligations evaporate for the day. You get the day all to yourself, to do anything you please. What types of fun activities would make your day?

I recently relocated to California and am temporarily unemployed.  I actually have the opportunity to do anything I please on a daily basis…I just have not  been taking advantage of the opportunity, until today.

After my morning workout (a must in order to keep my mood on the up side) I was headed back to the house, but not looking forward to it because I knew all I would do was worry about “when will I start making some money again”. Well, on the way home, my car took a right turn (as if it was driving itself) away from the house and drove directly to the beach.

After parking the car, I bought something to eat, took it with me and found a spot on the beach among a bunch of kids running around having fun. Seeing the kids brought a smile to my face – aah, to be a kid again. As I ate the seagulls gathered around, kinda scary since they were very vocal, but I kept eating since we are not suppose to feed them.

Surf Baby
Surf Baby (taken by Del)

I spread out my towel, settled in and got comfy, then I ate my lunch while I read – The Third Rule Of Ten: Tenzing Norbu Mystery by Gay Hendrick…love this mystery series where the main character is an ex-Buddhist, ex-cop, private investigator. What I enjoyed most of all was laying on my towel digging my toes into the cool sand and soaking up the warm rays.

Want Food (taken by Del)
Want Food (taken by Del)

The sun peaked through just in time for me to be on the beach, as if saying, “You made the right decision to come here”. I call this a perfect day!

WP Daily Prompt: Nothin’ But A Good Time – http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2014/02/21/daily-prompt-good-time/